Most of us know the story of doubting Thomas and we can relate to Thomas because we all experience doubt. We doubt the weather forecast. We doubt our impact on the lives of others. We doubt most of our decisions. At times we even doubt our faith. The POWER of doubt is strong and if we are not careful it can and will quickly overcome us. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines self-doubt as a “lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities”. That doubting spirit gets stronger as we over-think things, we add anxiety to the mix, and the self-doubt multiplies. Self-doubt leads to avoiding involving ourselves in the activities that will move us into our predestined pathway. To overcome self-doubt our mindset must change. Here are at least 3 ways to overcome self-doubt:
- Fall in Love with the One in the Mirror. Loving ourselves is not naïve. If we are not willing to at least become best friends with ourselves, how do we expect anyone else to? If we do not convey confidence (not arrogance) in what we do and in what we believe, how are people going to ever take us seriously? When we embrace our true identities – when we love ourselves – there is no room for self-doubt to creep in. When it starts to appear, we simply need to move closer to the Light of love.
- Let Us Welcome Discomfort. Remember your first job interview, your first date, it felt uncomfortable, even outright nerve-wrecking! From deciding what to wear, how to answer the questions posed, triggered a new way of FEELING and DOING and BEING; causing, self-doubt. We suddenly had to figure out who this new character was that we had to portray and then we had to perfect that in order for people to think we were either suited for the job or the new relationship. Self-doubt halts achievement!
- Forget the Nay-Sayers. They are all around us, lining our lives on both sides and instead of cheering us on, they either mock or place prohibitors in our paths. They want us to fail and their screams and taunts are much louder than the ones who are trying to encourage us. When we listen, we therefore, become. Winston Churchill said, “You have enemies? Good! That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” Sanaya Roman wrote, “You do not need to pay attention to those voices within you that create pain, or make you feel less competent.” Today, choose to break free and move past the limitations of self-doubt, discomfort and your nay-sayers.
Remember, you are the composer with the pen, begin transcribing your destiny…away from self-doubt.